Urges vs Emotions
Why process emotions?
Emotions are signals that help me set my direction. They are markers on my map. If I'm moving in an unwanted direction, processing my emotion helps me acknowledge the drive and then resolve it to adjust course.
Why surf urges?
Urges are drives. They are currents under my boat. They might carry me along my planned route on my map, or they might carry me way from it.
Notice when an urge comes. Check the currents. Decide: Let it carry my boat? Or "surf" and it pass.